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Post by gardendmpls on Mar 3, 2021 22:52:09 GMT -5
"I bet no one will share this" I have a friend who shares every tritely phrased, feel good post she sees and there is always an "I bet you won't share this". The phrase implies "I think you are one of those terrible, uncaring people who won't share this great thought I just had, but I will give you a chance to redeem yourself and prove me wrong". So condescending. I keep telling her I don't share this stuff, but she keeps on posting. She is really a sweet person, but has an urge to share such Hallmark sentiments and I guess the way they are made, it is hard to remove the "share me" phrase. Just need to keep the barf bucket handy.
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Post by SpringRain🕊️ on Mar 4, 2021 13:18:19 GMT -5
emmsmommy , I think the "poor child" woman hasn't educated herself sufficiently on issues of not only child raising, but of dealing with unexpected situations either in child raising, or just plain life. She perhaps has a preconceived notion of what life should be and isn't able to address or cope with variations. I'm now reading a very inspirational collection of human stories of tragedy, coping and conquest, which is helping me get through a back injury (instead of feeling sorry for myself). I began buying the Chicken Soup for the Soul books decades ago, probably when my mother and sister were both diagnosed with cancer in the same year. Over time I've established a good collection with a wide variety of topics (including a Chicken Soup for the Gardener's Soul), ranging from Ocean Lover's Soul to Working Woman's Soul. Each is different, with a different focus, and intensity of stories. For the last month or so I'd pick up my current repeated read: "Tough Times, Tough People". Focusing around the 2008 crises and financial upheavals, it's one of the most intense, emotional, but inspirational in the series. My fat yellow marking pen gets a really good workout. I mention this because your attitude is consistent with the survivors in the stories. You have a lot of which to be proud; the "poor child" woman doesn't, and if she's ever faced with very, very difficult challenges, I doubt she'd be able to adapt and/or cope as well as someone with your very positive attitude.
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Post by SpringRain🕊️ on Mar 4, 2021 13:19:36 GMT -5
gardendmpls, I give you credit for having the compassion to tolerate this woman.
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Post by breezygardener on Mar 4, 2021 13:22:43 GMT -5
I have a friend who shares every tritely phrased, feel good post she sees and there is always an "I bet you won't share this". The phrase implies "I think you are one of those terrible, uncaring people who won't share this great thought I just had, but I will give you a chance to redeem yourself and prove me wrong". So condescending. I keep telling her I don't share this stuff, but she keeps on posting. She is really a sweet person, but has an urge to share such Hallmark sentiments and I guess the way they are made, it is hard to remove the "share me" phrase. Just need to keep the barf bucket handy. Lol!! I've been running a "Daily Smile" & "Daily Quote" e-mail for over 15 years now. But never have I insisted anyone share, & the people I send these to have beforehand told me they want them, & anyone can opt out at any time without any hard feelings whatsoever. In fact, a couple of folks on here receive my missives.
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Post by emmsmommy on Mar 4, 2021 13:43:41 GMT -5
SpringRain🕊️, I try to ignore the "poor child" people as much as possible but sometimes it's hard. Right before my daughter had her heart surgery I received a phone call from a lady saying we needed to discuss her fundraiser. My question was "what fundraiser?" Seems a family member had contacted the organization the lady worked for without our knowledge and started the process. I thanked the lady, explained that our insurance was going to cover the surgery 100% and that we would either be staying in her room or at Ronald McDonald house during her stay. I suggested that a local family who had just lost their home in a fire could use the funds. When we contacted the family member who had organized everything, her response was that there is nothing specifying that money has to be used for medical expenses and that we could use it to buy a new lawnmower or a vacation if we wanted. We told her we felt that was wrong and to please not do it again.
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Post by emmsmommy on Mar 4, 2021 13:45:59 GMT -5
breezygardener, I think you and my mom would get along great! Every morning she sends me a Good Morning message and a cute quote.
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Post by gardendmpls on Mar 4, 2021 23:44:37 GMT -5
or having the compassion to tolerate this woman We are good friends from way back. Her husband passed away shortly after mine and she gets comfort from the sentimental. She agrees with me on the "forward this or else" notices, but can't remove them from the reposts as they are usually in what I call poster or sign form. I just click off the post right away if it is nothing I want to waste time reading. Clicking a mouse doesn't require much effort. Actually I have been skipping all but a few post notifications on Facebook and cut out most following on Instagram. Gives me way more time for what I really want to do.
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Post by ecsoehng on Mar 8, 2021 15:01:07 GMT -5
Yes! I hate when I see people have purchased or been given plants and they just died in pots from neglect. Ah well, at least the nurseries may have gotten some profit. emmsmommy, I have one grown son with disabilities and one son in heaven who was severely disabled after a TBI. Those "I bet you won't share" and the like posts are terrible. Trying to take advantage of the disabled. I love FB for the conversations I can have with friends and relatives I had lost touch with, but I hate all the ads and political content. Talking about plants is better.
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Post by breezygardener on Mar 9, 2021 13:50:55 GMT -5
Yes! I hate when I see people have purchased or been given plants and they just died in pots from neglect. I have to admit that I've been guilty of this at times.
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Post by gardendmpls on Mar 9, 2021 22:24:01 GMT -5
and I never share! If I can't come up with something of my own then I won't post. I almost missed the joke. Good one.
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Post by James on Mar 10, 2021 10:30:00 GMT -5
it!
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Post by Mumsey on Mar 11, 2021 8:41:40 GMT -5
People who don't pick up their dog's poo while out walking. Just the other day as I got home I noticed someone walking a large dog. It pooped on the corner and she continued on. As she got to our driveway I asked if she would like a bag for her dog's poo. I took one out of my pocket. She said, no, she would get her scooper and come back. She never did cuz I saw the poo still there. Never seen her before. Bet she doesn't come down our street again. Just trying to be helpful. If I see her again with that happening I will politely remind her there is a $30 fine for not picking it up. (Getting caught though is a slim chance, it's not a high priority enforcement.)
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Post by emmsmommy on Mar 11, 2021 22:04:22 GMT -5
Yes! I hate when I see people have purchased or been given plants and they just died in pots from neglect. I have to admit that I've been guilty of this at times. Well I'm not completely innocent there either but if I specifically ask for a division, I usually try to plant it as soon as I can. Then sometimes I just forget. For instance I found a lady selling an old variety of cowslips at the flea market that had died out at my grandma's. I sat the pot under the chestnut tree that evening and watered it periodically for several weeks. Last spring I happened to think of that pot and wondered where in the heck it went since it wasn't under the tree and kicking myself because I'd probably killed it. I found it beside the house near the faucet and it was green and healthy. I planted it the next day and looking forward to seeing it bloom again. As for doggie doo, We've always had issues when setting up as vendors at one particular location where the lot is gravel. More than once I've given people a bag and asked them to remove it, but the worst thing is when the owners allow the dogs to lift their leg and water the merchandise. Luckily that's never happened to us but we've seen it happen to other vendors many times.
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Post by Mumsey on Mar 12, 2021 4:43:59 GMT -5
owners allow the dogs to lift their leg Dogs are not allowed at Farmer's Markets here. Though some people just don't get it.
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Post by James on Mar 13, 2021 10:44:03 GMT -5
The market should have a rule: "No dogs allowed!"
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